The One Page I Wish Someone Had Handed Me the Day After the Funeral

I remember standing in the kitchen four days after my husband died, staring at a stack of sympathy cards and thinking, “Okay… now what?”

The funeral was over. Everyone had gone home. And suddenly I was supposed to know how to cancel his phone, stop his mail, and figure out if the life insurance even existed. That doesn’t even count having to take care of my three young kids.

Nobody tells you that the real work starts when the casseroles stop coming.

If I could go back, I’d hand that exhausted version of myself one single page that said something like:

• Call Social Security first

• Order 20 death certificates today

• Don’t touch the joint bank account yet

• Breathe. You don’t have to solve everything this week.

Not a plan. Not everything. Just the first right things. That page became the first page of the workbook I’m building now — because no one should have to Google “what to do when someone dies” at 2 a.m. while crying into their coffee.

If you’re in that kitchen right now — or you know someone who is — I made that page for you.

Drop your email here and I’ll send it to you for free, no strings.

You’ve already carried enough. Let this one thing be easier.

With love,

Jessica Sole

Founder, Calm Crossing

P.S. Talking about this doesn’t make it happen. Silence almost guarantees chaos will.